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Parentification: When a Child Becomes the Parent of Their Own Parents

published by Révélations de Carmen, on 01/07/2026, in the topic Relationships & Emotions

Parentification: When a Child Becomes the Parent of Their Own Parents Many people who experienced a difficult childhood make a promise: "I will never put my children through this." The intention is sincere, yet this...

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Death of Lyhanna and the link to childhood trauma: consequences in adulthood on the body, emotions, and the nervous system

published by Révélations de Carmen, on 10/06/2026, in the topic Trauma & Body Memory

Who Knows a Rape Victim?   I know several, among my clients. This is not an abstract statistic or a distant topic of debate. It is a reality that resonates with a painful sharpness every...

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How to Choose a Trauma Therapist: 8 Essential Criteria for Safe Support

published by Révélations de Carmen, on 05/11/2025, in the topic Trauma & Body Memory

You're Not Just Choosing a Therapist, You're Choosing Who to Trust with Your Nervous System Choosing a trauma-specialized therapist is not a trivial decision. Yet many people find themselves lost amid a plethora of offerings...

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I am a workaholic, but I ignore myself: the work addiction that nobody talks about.

published by Révélations de Carmen, on 03/07/2025, in the topic Trauma & Body Memory

The addiction to work—not many people talk about it.   In reality, you're not working too much; you're just running away from a void that your body doesn't yet know how to tame. And that...

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When the need to control everything hides a deep need for inner safety.

published by Révélations de Carmen, on 10/06/2025, in the topic Nervous System & Regulation

For a long time, I believed that my need to control everything was part of my personality. That I was simply "a perfectionist," "demanding," "organized." I'm sure you know what I'm talking about.   But...

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What if the Best Version of You Desn't Exist?

published by Révélations de Carmen, on 29/05/2025, in the topic Relationships & Emotions

What if the Best Version of You Desn't Exist?   “Carmen, I’m so tired of this obsession with becoming the best version of myself. I’ve read everything, followed every program... and I feel even more...

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Healing Trauma for Parents: Create a Healthier Future for Your Kids

published by Révélations de Carmen, on 21/04/2025, in the topic Trauma & Body Memory

How old were you when one of your parents decided to work on themselves... to truly hear you, welcome you, and protect you? Let that question resonate. No need to answer right away. Often, your...

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Stop Being a People Pleaser: Learn How to Say No with Confidence

published by Révélations de Carmen, on 06/03/2025, in the topic Relationships & Emotions

Saying “no” should be simple. But for many people, it's a real challenge. Even after reading books, taking courses, or watching videos, the "yes" still comes out automatically... while on the inside, everything is screaming...

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